When Harry Met Sally

As I mentioned a couple posts ago, I spent part of my Friday evening watching (again) the movie When Harry Met Sally. I have no idea how many times I’ve seen this film, but it’s safe to say many. So many, in fact, that I can almost quote it, scene for scene. This movie is seriously quotable (“Oh, but ‘baby fish mouth’ is sweeping the nation?” or “I will never want that wagon-wheel coffee table,” to name a couple of the more obscure ones), and as I watched it yet again, pretty cutting edge, if only for the way it illuminated the differences between men and women in a new way (in 1989).

I haven’t yet listened to the Popcorn Dialogues podcast about this movie, but I did watch one of the DVD special features, in which Nora Ephron and Rob Reiner talk about the making of the movie. What interested me, and gave me sort of an aha moment, was the comment by Nora that this movie isn’t really about the question of whether or not men and women can be friends without the sex getting in the way. It’s about the broader issue of the differences between men and women and the way they think.

As I was watching the movie, I was reflecting on how differently I think about that issue now as a 4o-something than when I first saw the movie in theaters, when I had recently graduated from college. When the movie first came out, I was firmly in Sally’s camp, based on personal experience. Of course men and women can be friends! I still believe that, but over the years, I have also come to understand better (or at least acknowledge) the very real differences between the way women and men think, especially about each other. And so I get where Harry is coming from today more than I ever could have when I was 22.

So, what do you think about the premise of When Harry Met Sally? Has anyone else watched this movie as many times as I have? And does anyone besides me find New Year’s Eve (the date when this movie seems to get the most play on cable TV) as anti-climactic a holiday as I do? Discuss. 🙂

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Lora says:

    Yes I have seen it a gajillion times, approximately. I maintain it’s one of the most romantic movies ever and quite hilarious. The baby-fishmouth quote is my favorite, the runner up being “I’ll stay up and practice moaning. Ungh. Ungh. Ungh.”

    And I married my best guy friend, fyi.

  2. Delia says:

    Yes and Yes. Wonderful movie and New Year’s Eve is anti-climactic. Because after the clock strikes twelve and people kiss, no one knows what to do. There’s no more waiting for anything to happen, just a bunch of people standing around trying to figure out if they’ve had too many drinks to drive.

    Favorite quote from When Harry Met Sally: “It’s the name. ‘Do it to me Sheldon, you’re an animal Sheldon, ride me big Sheldon.’ Doesn’t work.”
    Because, evidently, I’m twelve.

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